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On Letting Go and Transforming From Within — Part 2:
This is the second part of the series “On Letting Go and Transforming From Within”.
In the first part, we discovered the concept of paradigms which determine the baseline level of how we feel about ourselves.
In this part, we are going to discover the desired abundance paradigm and how, if at all, we can “get there”.
Abundance — The Desired Paradigm
In every spiritual discipline, there is one concept that tries to describe the same thing, whether you call it Oneness, Being, or even God.
We are going to call it Abundance, the paradigm we want to realize by letting go of scarcity and the feeling of not being enough.
What is Abundance?
Trying to define Abundance, would inevitably result in contradictions.
Abundance can hardly be defined because it cannot depend on anything and you can’t do anything to deserve it.
You can’t do anything to get there either, because that would mean that you are in a paradigm of scarcity now and the more you are trying to escape it to “get to” abundance, the more you would reinforce your scarcity paradigm, just like in the example of quicksand or a reinforcing loop.
That is the paradox of abundance, it actually cannot be a goal, it is nothing to get to, to desire or to achieve.
The only way to be in abundance is to start with abundance.
But what if I am in a paradigm of scarcity right now?
Then you need to let go of that paradigm first and realize that you are already abundant underneath.
Abundance is nothing that you think, feel or do, it’s something that is and that you already have by default, a natural state of being, which comes before everything.
Just like in the video game analogy, being abundant equals being the person that plays the game, not being identified with the character of the video game.
Therefore, the person that plays the game, just like abundance, is not found in the game itself, it comes before that.
Through our social conditioning, however, we’ve lost touch with this state, we got “sucked into the video game.”
Eckhart Tolle calls this “losing touch with Being”, by giving birth to and identifying with the ego.
This is the cause for our desire to always chasing the next thing and not being satisfied with what we have.
Abundance, however, is your true and natural default state, you don’t get there through having or doing, you don’t get there at all, you already have it, it is only clouded.
This reconciles self-acceptance with self-improvement, you are removing what you are not, knowing underneath you are already there.
It’s about letting go and making the shift from having and doing to being.
The Meaning of Letting Go
Removing the false assumption of scarcity we bought into, means to also let go of your ego, your thoughts, emotions, likes, dislikes, personality and of everything that is mental.
This is the only way to your true nature.
Letting go does not mean to get more data and information on it, it will cloud the abundance paradigm underneath even further and give you more to let go off.
Information, like this article, can only point you in the right direction.
In the world of personal development, we are used to seeking and optimizing.
Even if it seems counterintuitive, it is about letting go, not about climbing.
Common Stages on the Journey of Self-Improvement
Most people that get into personal development want to change a life area that they are not happy with.
This is the first stage, where we are stuck somewhere, not feeling very good about ourselves, but experiencing lack.
In the second stage, we realize that that change is possible and improve that life area.
This stage of optimizing is where most people interested in personal development are at.
However just as Jim Carrey said, at some point, we might realize, maybe after getting rich and doing everything we ever dreamed of, that it’s not the answer.
We might realize that the constant need to optimize only deals with externals and does not address the core problem.
Once we get into a life situation of high pressure, strong negativity and where we question everything, we are one step away from despair but also one step ahead of enlightenment.
Surrendering to this situation and your emotions will allow you to drop everything and truly let go.
This is similar to Eckhart Tolle’s experience at the age of 29 when after surrendering to his severe depression he was able to drop it and truly realize abundance.
But doesn’t dropping everything you hold on to lead to nihilism?
Yes, in the first place it does. You could be ok with nihilism, with doing nothing, because there seems to be no point in doing anything.
Indeed there is not absolute, predetermined meaning to anything.
However, this means that you can create your own relative meaning and create and pursue your own authentic purpose.
You can then still work on different areas of your life, as long as it comes from a place of inspiration instead of desperation.
So what’s true for you depends on what stage you’re in. That’s why there are contradictions and different teachings for different stages.
You might first need to get through the first stage by trying to optimize yourself out of scarcity only to realize that it’s not the answer.
The final answer will be dropping and building on a foundation that is based on inspiration instead of desperation.
Committing to Abundance
If you are at the stage where you realize that accumulating more of whatever it is (money, success, followers, possessions) will not be the answer, then you are ready to let go.
It is a very counterintuitive approach, there might still be a lot of resistance to it.
And it does not mean that you need to live in a cabin in the woods and are not allowed to have material possessions.
But only by detaching from your mind and thoughts, the positive and negative, of everything that is dual — in short, by letting go — you will be able to realize abundance.
Once you are in the paradigm of abundance, you act out of inspiration and can enjoy pursuing an authentic purpose, while not being dependent on it.
This concludes the second part of the series “On Letting Go and Transforming From Within”.
Head over to the third part, where we will look at the practical steps on how it is that you actually let go of the paradigm of scarcity.